Dating someone with bpd borderline personality disorder
Impulsive actions, another defining feature of BPD, also popped up in my relationships.
Often for BPDs, they show up as substance abuse, or self-destructive behaviors such as cutting, burning, or binge eating.
After our affair flamed out, it took a number of years for me to even consider opening up again.
When I did, that partner bore witness to the opposite tendencies.
The trope lambasts women for having emotions, existing mostly to invalidate feelings and to over-exaggerate the reaction women have for not accepting being ghosted, played, or treated poorly.
nk’s “Please Don’t Leave Me” that really captures the condition—intentionally or otherwise.
The song’s protagonist traipses between being hurtful and bullying toward her partner (“How did I become so obnoxious? / I’ve never been this nasty”) to pleading—“Please please don’t leave me.” On the surface it seems counter-intuitive—stop being mean and he won’t leave you—but the nuances run deeper.
You know the bubble is going to pop; the real fun is in never knowing when or why.
The central issue is that BPD is based around feelings.